ppl pleasing vs being nice #4

 Hey guys im back!!

idk if anyone really cares about this little blog but I do so thats probably enough. Today I went on a super fun expedition to Costco. I love you costco. Anyways, I was at the food court and I really super wanted a sweet treat (as one does) so I go to the little ciosc (idk how to spell it :( and i buy an ice cream cup with CHOCOLATE SYPURP this is vital to the story so dont forget ok.

So i wait my turn (a whopping 20 mins) and this super nice lady I think her name was Silvia hands me a cup that contains:

1) some vanilla ice cream 😄👰💜

2) strawberry syrup 😀

now this wouldnt be a big deal except for the fact i stongly dislike strawberry drizzle there were chunks and evrything it was truly disheartening. This nice lady realizes and offers me like 3 times to remake it. I figured she was really busy and I didnt want to make her life harder so I just took it. long story short i went back, bought the one i wanted, and waited 10 more mins. THE POINT IS i probably didnt need to do all of that. What your brain disguises as being nice is like trying to go to target and instead of just going to target you ask the enitre population of minessoda if they need anything while youre out. the point is its dumb.

I have a million examples of times I felt bad for people and made everything harder for everyone instead of just using my big girl words but i wont dive in 💚. A good rule of ring finger that i just made up to know if ur being nice or ppl pleasing is:

if it makes you feel good inside afterwords: YOU WERE BEING NICE 

if it makes you feel not good inside & stressed out: YOU WERE PEOPLE PLEASING

maybe this is just a me issue but i dont think it is bc they made up a whole name for it so hope this was useful and that my wisdom was like orange chicken (mm panda express tasty good yum) in a room of unseason chicken breast.

Thank you so much if u read this ur a diva bye until next time!!

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